In this weekly series, we offer a little inspiration to kick off your week. Some simple accessible wisdom, from one soul to another.
With hopes that it helps ease you into your week.
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WHAT WE RESIST PERSISTS
“Most of us have two lives. The life we live, and the unlived life within us. Between the two stands Resistance.”
What do you do when you want to make a change but you find yourself resisting the very thing you say you want?
You see the destination, but getting there — feels next to impossible. Not because of logistics. But because of YOU.
I hear this from A LOT of amazingly talented women. They aren’t daunted by the action steps they need to take (as Marie Forleo says, “everything is figureoutable”). No, this isn’t a problem Google can fix. It feels like a deep emotional or spiritual block that’s keeping them stuck. In fact, it’s so strong that they even experience physical symptoms (back problems, digestive issues, frequent colds/sickness, mysterious aches, pains, rashes, etc.).
Does any of this sound familiar?
I’ve struggled most of my adult life with this very thing. With knowing I was meant to go places, create something magical or move onward and upward, but feeling like I was stuck in quicksand.
I literally felt like I couldn’t move forward. I would procrastinate, get sick, sabotage relationships and be riddled with overwhelm and confusion. And when your mind and body feel overloaded — good luck making sound decisions or getting creative work done. It’s impossible.
One example is when I was overseeing operations at a luxury spa in San Francisco. I had it made. Monthly massages and facials, free yoga, a team of amazing women to work with, surrounded by gorgeous products and services. It was heaven. Or should have been.
I was the sickest I’ve ever been in my life working at that spa. I shrugged off the initial pangs of claustrophobia and boredom. I ignored my body’s signals (debilitating PMS, chronic headaches and digestive problems). I resisted. Big time. And things only got worse. Until one day I had a blowout fight with the owner of the spa and handed in my notice.
Did it need to come to that? A heated argument and months of physical, emotional (and even spiritual) pain? Apparently for me it did. It was the beginning of me learning to listen to my intuition and start to follow its lead.
About two months after leaving the job I had less anxiety, no more debilitating cramps and had a more positive and optimistic view about everything in my life. It wasn’t because I hated the people I worked with, or that the job was torturous. It’s just that it wasn’t for me.
Sometimes the things we resist aren’t terribly boring or tedious. Often times from the outside, it looks cozy, and even a little cushy. But no matter what it looks like, the true barometer is what it feels like. When you begin to listen and pay attention to the signs your body and mind are trying desperately to communicate to you, you not only learn to trust yourself, but you get closer to the Truth.
What are you resisting right now? Is it in your job or career? Your relationships? Your health & wellness? What would happen if you stopped resisting and followed your inner guidance? Experiment this week with listening to that voice. Pay attention to the physical signs and begin to trust that you know what you really want and need. This seemingly small act will get you closer and closer to the life you truly desire.