When I was introduced to Tatum Fjerstad online (all hail the internet!), I knew instantly that she was the real deal. Someone who I really wanted to know, someone who I could break bread with, bust out some JT dance moves with and someone who was doing things to change the world.
I love the internet. I love the work Tatum is up to in the world. And that her laughter can light up an entire room. And that she’s a self-proclaimed professional napper (as someone who can’t nap – I might need her to teach me a thing or two about that one)!
Welcoming Tatum onboard The Girl Who Knows guest editor squad is a true honor. I can’t wait for you to get to know a bit more about this feisty yogi – so let’s get to the goods, shall we?
I’m so excited to do this Q+A with you today Tatum. It’s a privilege to share a bit about you & your story with our readers. Start by telling us who you are and what you do + create + love?
I was born and raised in Minneapolis, Minnesota. The government thinks I live in Greenpoint, Brooklyn, but I’m actually living out of a Ford Fiesta until the end of May. I’m traveling the country teaching movement, meditation and writing (#MoveSitWrite) as a means of healing and self-care.
Yes, I’m a self-proclaimed professional napper. I’ve got a sly sense of humor and my laughter is literally so robust that people often do a double-take when they pass by. Ultimately, I’m a human being teaching other human beings how to be okay with being human. I don’t have all the answers and I don’t want them. I simply want to be helpful, honest and make you laugh.
I love that. It’s true – none of us have all the answers. But when we pool all of what we know together – we just might be able to make sense of this thing called life. Hence, what TGWK is all about! So tell me, how did Move Sit Write come about? Why is this project and the work you do so important in the world?
I decided to go on this Move Sit Write tour because I was tired of playing small and living the life I was told I was supposed to live. The world is full of unhappy people who are ticking off boxes thinking that some day they’ll get to this magical place where they won’t have to try as hard or things will make more sense. I don’t mean to be bleak, but I’ve talked to a lot of older people and none of them are any closer to understanding what the hell is going on and they’ve checked a LOT of boxes in their lives.
I don’t want to wake up when I’m 50 and think, “Shit. What have I been doing? And how do I start doing the things I want to do before my time is up?”
So I raised some funds, planned a tour from scratch, packed a car and hit the road. It’s the best, scariest, strangest, most magical thing I’ve ever done.
Like I mentioned before, I’m a human being teaching other human beings how to be okay with being human. Life is a messy vibrant thing and there is no step-by-step process for dissolving pain and avoiding hurt. We’re going to laugh and cry on rotation as long as we live. I guess I’ve sort of made it my mission to take a no-bullshit approach to living a vibrant life and showing others how to do the same.
No B.S.? Can I just say thank you?! So we know life can be painful and the work can be hard – how do you stay motivated and inspired, when things are feeling less than wonderful?
I guess I think it’s okay to have uninspired, unmotivated days or weeks or even months. Sometimes you just need to rest and be in your anger or confusion or frustration for awhile. I’ve actually found that I’m most motivated by moments of deep pain or fear. It’s from those dark times that I’m able to create something full of light that others can relate to.
So bring on those dull frustrating days, I say! They’re only going to make me a better writer, teacher, friend, daughter, sister and lover in the end.
Yes! I’m the same way & I couldn’t agree more. That dullness, pain or fear can definitely lead to beauty, creativity and learning (if we let it). As a non-morning person, what gets you out of bed in the morning?
Hmmm. I don’t know. It’s different every day, I guess. Sometimes it’s the cool things I have planned and sometimes it’s just the thirst for coffee or the urge to pee. 🙂
What does it mean to you, to live a life and have a business – with SOUL?
It means having integrity and being transparent about who you are and what you’re after. In my case, I’m a recovering people-pleaser who tends to see the darker side of things initially. All in all, I have a great sense of humor, I’m incredibly smart and I care deeply about how I affect the people around me. I’m trying to establish a life for myself that is saturated in love and authenticity while also making space for all the darker moments because I know there are great lessons in those spaces.
That balance of light and dark is so interesting. I love that you’re consciously trying to make space for both. Ok, I have a not-so-random question, as a big birthday fan, I’d love to know your dream way to spend a birthday?
Well, as I write this it IS my birthday month. This year, my friends are flying me out to San Francisco (I’ve never been!) and throwing me a beach party. So, this might be the best birthday yet. Every other birthday I’ve had has been pretty great, though. Last year we did flower crowns and grilled out. The year before I spent the day with my best friend wandering NYC and before that I think I spent the day alone and didn’t do much, which was also pretty great.
That sounds amazing – happy birthday month! As you grow a year older, you’ve most certainly grown a bit wiser. If you knew then, what you know now – what message would you have for your younger self?
Relax, dude. It’s gonna be wilder than you can possibly imagine.
And finally — what is one thing you know to be true?
That we’re all doing the best we can with the tools we have.
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I’m so grateful to have a woman like Tatum, share her wisdom with us for the next few months. I love that she is living full out, facing fears and marching to her own beat. I can’t wait to see what kinds of beautiful articles she shares with us in the weeks to come!
Head over to Tatum’s website to learn more about her, you can also give her some love over on Twitter and Instagram. And if you want to check out all of the posts she’s done here on TGWK, be sure to visit her contributor page for more details.
Have fun on the rest of your Move Sit Write tour Tatum – and thanks so much for hanging out with me today and sharing yourself with our readers!
Photos courtesy of Tatum Fjerstad