“If I didn’t define myself for myself, I would be crunched into other people’s fantasies for me and eaten alive.”
-Audre Lorde

There are times in life when it is so easy to know what you want, when you enjoy a pure, instinctive knowing of what you are after, the experiences that will thrill you to your very core.

And there are times when you just don’t know where to begin. When, for one reason or another, you don’t know what you want and maybe even put yourself at risk of absorbing someone else’s ideas about what will thrill you.

I’ve been both places. 🙂

Whether you have a good idea of what you want and just need to supercharge it or if you are starting at the beginning and need to find your passion, here are some ideas to become a pro passion detector.

  • Meditate
    If you’ve read my previous posts, I bet you saw this one coming, but nothing lets you see inside and find out what you really value like meditation. (I am including a short meditation at the end of this post if you want to try it.)
  • Divination
    You don’t need to be a gypsy to enjoy the benefits of divination. I think of divination as asking questions and then letting the answers come. You can pull your own cards, look for your own omens, be your own guru. If formal divination puts you off, just go someplace natural and beautiful where you can see the horizon and allow some of your own innate wisdom to bubble up.
  • Dreamwork
    Sometimes you just have to be willing to ask the question before you go to sleep and let your subconscious work it out while your ego rests. Some people like to write everything down when they wake up, but I think if you just keep your eyes closed for a second as you awaken and focus on the feeling of the dream you can get the message with a lot less effort.
  • Vacation
    Do not underestimate the power of a conscious break from your everyday routine to show you what really means something to you. It can be as little as a few hours and it doesn’t really matter where you go as long as you look at it as a vision quest. Getaway with intent and you will discover something.
  • Journal, Scribble, Write, Draw
    This is one that I resist, but when I do it, I get my information in less than twenty minutes. Just some paper and a pen and let your hand move over the page. Once you’ve extracted your nuggets of wisdom from your scribblings, feel free to burn, trash or shred the paper, or perhaps hide it away to be re-visited six months later.
  • Reminisce
    Look at old photos of yourself when you were younger and remember what you liked then, it might spark an inner knowing of what you’ll like now. Also, looking at your younger self often elicits a protective feeling, making you willing to make strides and take action on their behalf.

So there you go, some very good starting off points!

And, as promised, here is a little passion detector meditation you can do. It takes just a few minutes and you may be surprised how quickly you get some great clues about the things that really thrill you.


By Jessica Snow

See yourself floating in a little boat on a warm sea. You are just resting there, letting yourself ride the surface of the sea.

There is something in the air, the softness of the breezes that are blowing over you, the way the wind whispers in your ear as you rest, that gives you the sense that a helpful energy is already here with you, sharing it’s insight and essence.

When you are ready, take a great big breath and dive into the water, completely underwater, swimming more or less straight down.

Once under, by some ocean magic, you find you can actually breathe underwater.

So you keep breathing and swimming down, deeper and deeper into the sea. After a while the sunlight filtering through the water grows dimmer and dimmer, the water becoming quite dark. Just in front of you find a radiant golden rope, strung taut and vertical and you use it to continue your downward swimming, pulling yourself deeper and deeper. Hand over hand you pull yourself deeper, it’s like you are climbing a ladder backwards into the depths. The radiance of the rope gives you just enough light to see when you are coming close to the ocean floor.

As you approach the sea bed, you see a great treasure chest, larger than you, resting there, it’s lid barely cracked open. One hand on the rope, you use the other to open the lid, light floods from the interior of the chest and you reach your hand in to extract one object.

Take the first thing your hand grabs.

Once it is tightly in your grip, use the rope and the saltwater buoyancy of the ocean draw you back up to the surface.

Bring your treasure back into the boat and examine it.
Whatever it is, take it to heart.
Stay open to your first instincts about this gift and maintain a refusal to force a final meaning on it, instead feel a willingness to let its full meaning blossom over time.

. . .

Now it’s your turn, how will you make room in your life to discover/supercharge your passion? Let me know what you’ll be trying, so that I can cheer you on!



Photo by Yaoqi LAI


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