Lessons from the front lines
Over the last month, I’ve been promoting an online business course that I’m cray-cray about.
If you know me, or you’ve been around here for awhile, at some point in time, you’ve likely heard me wax poetic about my love of Marie Forleo and her RHH B-School program.
I call it, the BMW of online biz training programs.
And it’s that (and so much more).
I love promoting the work, the art, the projects of those I believe in.
Like, I mean I REALLY love it.
I get high off of spreading the love and sharing good stuff with others.
I don’t do it because it makes me look good.
I don’t do it because I get a kickback (even though I sometimes do).
It’s not about the money, the fame, the glory.
It’s about the pure feeling of giving.
Like I said, addictive.
So it came to a HUGE surprise to me, when registration for B-School ended on Monday afternoon, that I felt deflated. Like a big ass helium balloon.
My best partner in crime and I had been promoting B-School to our communities.
We believe in it. It changed our lives.
But when it came down to it, nobody signed up for the program (and the free bonuses we were offering).
I felt kinda low.
I felt like a loser.
I felt not popular.
I felt like a failure.
And then I started to beat myself up.
If I love giving so much, then why in the world was I feeling so low anyway?
Was I really just a money-hungry, affiliate marketing, soulless peddler of self-help smut?
Am I not walking my walk? Talking my talk?
Maybe I AM a loser.
After a little texting with my partner in crime, chatting with my man and doing a bit of self-reflection, I realized what was up.
I was comparing myself.
To all the other “successful” B-School grads who were also promoting the program.
To the ladies with email lists that rival Barack Obama’s.
To the people who had helped 20, 30, 40+ excited souls signup for B-School.
I was comparison shopping myself.
You want to know the quickest way to feel like a total, utter failure in your life?
There’s a really simple 5-Step formula.
1. Pick someone you admire.
2. Look at all that they’ve accomplished (professional or personally) – only the shiny pretty parts of course
4. Compare to yourself – focusing only on what you’re lacking.
Not my finest moment.
Instead of wallowing in what I perceived I was lacking, I decided to turn to a trusted friend.
Twitter (you may have met).
I spent about an hour online, scheduling tweets of love, respect, admiration and support to the people in my world that I admire and adore.
I lavished compliments.
I expressed gratitude.
I poured out love.
On as many people as I could think of.
And almost instantly, my feelings of lack, of being “less than” were gone.
Just like that.
What’s your magic wand? Are you a comparison shopper? How do you lift yourself out of those places of feeling less than everyone else?
I’d love to hear from you in the comments below.