Most people are amazed to learn that I fell in love with my body when I was 30 pounds heavier than I am now. Because, let’s be honest, in today’s society, if you’re not super-thin, but you still love your body — like, I’m talking real, deep love — you’re considered an anomaly.

My clients and social media community often ask me how I learned to love my body. “Tell me how you did it!” They think it would be impossible for them to do it, too. But that’s not the case. Sometimes, changing what you do in your life can change how you feel about your body.

In this post, I’ll share with you the three changes I made that finally taught me to love my body, permanently, at any size.

Unfortunately, a big portion of how you feel about your body is a reflection of what’s happening in our culture. For a large number of us, we can no longer look into the mirror and see ourselves for the way we are: real, loving, unique and beautiful. Instead, we see ourselves through the eyes of the media and it doesn’t look or feel good.

Not only that, but the beauty industry is a multimillion-dollar industry that’s fueled by the fact that we feel broken and flawed. Because that perception makes us turn to them to “fix” the “problem.” If we were to actually feel beautiful all the time, they’d probably go bankrupt in a quick minute.

So, I dare you to try this body-image detox. Go through all of your social media accounts and start following people of all different shapes and sizes. Get rid of the ones who make you wish you were something different from what you are. Follow people who inspire the heck out of you, and stay out of discussions that make you feel like your body isn’t good enough exactly as it is. This includes forums and articles about dieting for weight loss, and all talk about body size, shape or weight — yours or anyone else’s.

As a health coach, I’ve seen this happen with every one of my clients, and I need to share it with you. They’ll be having an awesome body-image week, feeling confident and attractive. The next thing they know, they’re getting dressed — and what they want to wear doesn’t fit. It’s the kind of moment that can drag you right back down into a body-hate cycle and keep you there for a while.

Instead of putting yourself through that, I dare you to try this: Turn on some dance music (I’m thinking Megan Trainor) and go through your closet. Take everything that doesn’t fit you NOW and put it in a box or give it away. Rework your entire wardrobe to include only clothes that make you feel beautiful and sexy — and that you can wear at your current size. It’ll end those stressful body-image meltdowns later on. Trust me on this one.

Most women think that in order to be beautiful and have fun, they need to be at their ideal body weight. This is the furthest thing from the truth. In fact, this mindset not only puts extra stress on our bodies, it holds us back from following our passions and living life to the fullest.

Take it from me. I wasted six precious years of my life being miserable and obsessed over my weight. I had an illusion that being thinner would make things easier and bring me happiness. But it didn’t. Instead, all it did was trap me in a mental prison of weight fixation and food issues.

The moment I started living was the moment I decided not to wait one more second for the perfect body. I began to do all the things I dreamed I’d do if I were skinny. I found beautiful clothes. I started dating. I started dancing. I started eating delicious food. I let myself fall in love with my now-husband.

To get the ball rolling, ask yourself this: “If I knew I’d be happy with my body a few years from now, would I waste my time being this upset”? The answer is usually “no.” So start living! Yes?!

Loving your body is a journey, not a destination. It’s a commitment you make to yourself, for yourself.

What changes will you make to start showing your body some unconditional love? Share any insights, stories or tips in the conversation box below.


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  1. I really liked steps 1 and 3. I can really relate to what you are trying to help us figure out. This advice came at the perfect time for me. I wish I could store all of this information and when I need to go back and reflect and get inspired again I could

    1. So glad you enjoyed & resonated w/ Soshy’s article! I have the same struggle with referring back to inspiration and wisdom when I need it most. I’ve started writing down little notes and putting them in my planner or creating art prints out of them and hanging them on the wall. Also, using something like Bloglovin’ to “bookmark” blog posts that speak to you is a really great resource. Hope that helps Lori! xo

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